XiaoMa Posted June 22, 2004 at 06:43 AM Report Share Posted June 22, 2004 at 06:43 AM Hello, i am XiaoMa from Germany. I have a chinese girlfriend. This is my first asian partnership and we're very happy 'bout it. But there are some differences between the behaviour in an asian culture and in europe. So i am a little bit confused I always want to kiss her in front of all of my friends or comrades.. but she says thats "Loose Face" for example: my girlfriend gives me a "wen3hen2" .. i thought this was only a little joke.. but when i saw it in the mirror i was a little shocked .. a very big red circle at my neck.. for some days now. Now i wear high clothes so that my friends and parents can't see that, not to think i am wounded or something (althouth thats very hot actually here, temperature) What does it mean when an chinese woman does this to a man? This is never done by german women, maybe not by european woman.. Thanx in advance fellows, XiaoMa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
holyman Posted June 22, 2004 at 08:25 AM Report Share Posted June 22, 2004 at 08:25 AM oh, last time in china people tends to give their cattle a burnt mark, 'this is mine' says the herdsman... nah, just joking, well a sign of affection, dun need to dwell too deep into it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Claw Posted June 22, 2004 at 05:04 PM Report Share Posted June 22, 2004 at 05:04 PM This is what is known in English as a hickey. I doubt it has anything to do with being Chinese. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yan Posted June 22, 2004 at 05:09 PM Report Share Posted June 22, 2004 at 05:09 PM Sei froh, daß sie Dich nicht auf die Nase geknutscht hat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roddy Posted June 22, 2004 at 05:14 PM Report Share Posted June 22, 2004 at 05:14 PM Sei froh, daß sie Dich nicht auf die Nase geknutscht hat For those of you who don't speak German, this means 'Oh, those crazy Chinese girls, always biting. I have to wear a scarf even in summer' Physical, public displays of affection are not so common in China, though becoming more so. I wouldn't be suprised if you found universities somewhere with rules about students holding hands. Roddy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yan Posted June 22, 2004 at 05:17 PM Report Share Posted June 22, 2004 at 05:17 PM For those of you who don't speak German, this means 'Oh, those crazy Chinese girls, always biting. I have to wear a scarf even in summer' Actually not. But actually it ain't that warm in Germany now either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yan Posted June 22, 2004 at 06:24 PM Report Share Posted June 22, 2004 at 06:24 PM OK, my gf is not chinese, but I think she would not like me to always kiss her in front of my friends either. Actually I think I might feel uncomfortable if she wanted to kiss me in front of her friends all the time, too. Maybe it's just a question of getting used to it. Re your hickneys, I think there are two options: You can either wear them like a man, or borrow some make-up from your girlfriend Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Disenchant Posted June 22, 2004 at 09:42 PM Report Share Posted June 22, 2004 at 09:42 PM lol -- you just called a hickey a Chinese love ritual. This is never done by german women, maybe not by european woman. I really doubt that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ole Posted June 23, 2004 at 07:02 AM Report Share Posted June 23, 2004 at 07:02 AM there is a beautiful German song called " Mach mir doch kein Knutschfleck" http://www.golyr.de/Ixi/songtext/123446_Knutschfleck.htm "I like to be kissed, but a hickey gets me pissed" (free translation) Ole Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
galitonwu Posted June 23, 2004 at 12:00 PM Report Share Posted June 23, 2004 at 12:00 PM Difficult man has difficult habit. It is normal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
holyman Posted June 23, 2004 at 02:24 PM Report Share Posted June 23, 2004 at 02:24 PM This is what is known in English as a hickey. I doubt it has anything to do with being Chinese. actually it appeared in ming classics written 600yrs ago, especially in those romantic ones. so i guess women everywhere behave more or less the same... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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