谈恋爱。。。

[ayala]

Hello everyone!

romantic question:

how should i translate 谈恋爱："dating"? "being in live"?

is it the same as 谈朋友？

if not, what is the difference?

谢谢大家，

ayala.

[andychao]

Hi, ayala:

In most circumstances, we call it as 'fell in love' , as for 'dating' , in Chinese, it substancially means have a date with someone.

For the '谈朋友', it's almost the same as '谈恋爱', but we don't normally use it too much, it is collateral way and not so directly as '谈恋爱'.

[ayala]

so, if 谈恋爱 means "fell in love", what is the difference between 谈恋爱 and 爱上了（她/他）？

i though that 爱上 means "to fall in love" (with someone) and 谈恋爱 means that two people are actually having a romantic relationship.

am i wrong again?...

many thanks,

Aayla.

[andychao]

Hi, Aya:

Normally, when we use谈恋爱, we are saying that ‘A fell in love with B’, which means A loves B, and B also loves A. Such as, Ayala is 谈恋爱ing with Jennifer Lopez, it mean Ayala and Jennifer Lopez were boyfriend and girlfriend.

However, ‘爱上了’ is just a very basic and general mean of ‘love’ or ‘like’, for example, I say I爱上了 Ayala,‘ that means I like or I fall in love with Ayala, however, I am absolutely not sure whether Ayala also loves me or not….alternatively, we can also say ‘after watching the Gone with the wind, I 爱上了Scarlett’, obviously, it’s just a kidding.

So, ‘谈恋爱’ means a love of mutually, certainly and a matter-of-fact, but ‘爱上了’…more or less, just as ‘ I like…..’, without any results and consequences.

Hope it helps.

[ayala]

well, i think i got it now!

many thanks for your detailed reply!

ayala.