Ian_Lee Posted March 9, 2004 at 07:29 PM Report Share Posted March 9, 2004 at 07:29 PM In the lonelyplant forum, there are always topics about westerners dating Chinese girls. But seldom is there any topic related to Chinese guy dating western girl. When I was in my sophomore year studying in a university in the deep South, I had dated American girl. The most unforgettable experience was that during the first date, she asked me to pick her up at her place. She hadn't dressed yet and asked me to wait for her to change. I still remembered that she changed clothes inside the bathroom without closing the door. The relationship didn't work out. (However, I came across her on campus two years later and she was very eager to give me her new phone number even in front of her boyfriend.) But after so many years, I still wonder if she hinted something that night? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quest Posted March 10, 2004 at 05:18 AM Report Share Posted March 10, 2004 at 05:18 AM Ian_Lee when was that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
39degN Posted March 10, 2004 at 04:42 PM Report Share Posted March 10, 2004 at 04:42 PM gone with the wind, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian_Lee Posted March 11, 2004 at 08:01 PM Author Report Share Posted March 11, 2004 at 08:01 PM Quest and 39degN: Did you two ever date girls not from your own cultural background? I have dated American gal, ABC gal, HK gals, Taiwan gals and Singaporean and Malaysian gals (even though the latter four can all speak some forms of Chinese language, their cultural backgrounds are somewhat different). I would say the approaches towards them during dating games have to be somewhat varied. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quest Posted March 11, 2004 at 09:46 PM Report Share Posted March 11, 2004 at 09:46 PM 我比较专一。 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian_Lee Posted March 11, 2004 at 11:25 PM Author Report Share Posted March 11, 2004 at 11:25 PM Quest: After you get married, you should be faithful to your spouse. But not before the marriage. There are so many birds in the forest, why just hold on to the bird in your palm? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
39degN Posted March 12, 2004 at 04:35 AM Report Share Posted March 12, 2004 at 04:35 AM Quest and 39degN:Did you two ever date girls not from your own cultural background? i mean no offence, but, first of all, this is private then, no exhibitionism lastly, i dont think it's a appropriate topic for here. i m sorry! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lu Posted March 12, 2004 at 03:38 PM Report Share Posted March 12, 2004 at 03:38 PM In the lonelyplant forum' date=' there are always topics about westerners dating Chinese girls.But seldom is there any topic related to Chinese guy dating western girl. (...)[/quote']I suppose that is because most Chinese-Western relationships are between a Western man and a Chinese woman. You very rarely see it the other way around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geek_frappa Posted March 12, 2004 at 03:49 PM Report Share Posted March 12, 2004 at 03:49 PM there is a discussion of these type of issues here, too. http://www.goldsea.com/Air/Issues/Females/females.html the page with more links to Love and Relationships... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian_Lee Posted March 12, 2004 at 06:20 PM Author Report Share Posted March 12, 2004 at 06:20 PM Lu wrote: I suppose that is because most Chinese-Western relationships are between a Western man and a Chinese woman. You very rarely see it the other way around. Why can't it be both way? By 2020, there will be 30-40 million Chinese guys without spouses. They should look for more sources and don't confine their targets to only Chinese girls. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geek_frappa Posted March 12, 2004 at 06:58 PM Report Share Posted March 12, 2004 at 06:58 PM Lu wrote:I suppose that is because most Chinese-Western relationships are between a Western man and a Chinese woman. You very rarely see it the other way around. Why can't it be both way? By 2020' date=' there will be 30-40 million Chinese guys without spouses. They should look for more sources and don't confine their targets to only Chinese girls.[/quote'] i hope they can find happiness. many of the Chinese men want to marry Sammi Cheng or Faye Wong instead of real women with real careers. some men are afraid of strong women. i don't know why. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trooper Posted March 13, 2004 at 12:06 AM Report Share Posted March 13, 2004 at 12:06 AM Is that really what Chinese men want? Good luck to them! If they want to look around more, where should they turn to? I can't think of many countries where there are many more females than males. Maybe women should be allowed more than one husband at the same time but men shouldn't be allowed more than one wife at the same time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geek_frappa Posted March 13, 2004 at 12:13 AM Report Share Posted March 13, 2004 at 12:13 AM Is that really what Chinese men want? Good luck to them! most men are this way around the world, i think. that's why women wear high heels that cause pain and damage to their legs, etc.... why can't we just love? also some Hong Kong guys have 2 wives. 1 in HK. 1 in China. is that legal? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
39degN Posted March 13, 2004 at 03:37 AM Report Share Posted March 13, 2004 at 03:37 AM also, some china guys have 2 wives. 1 in china, 1 in china/ is that legal? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geek_frappa Posted March 13, 2004 at 03:51 AM Report Share Posted March 13, 2004 at 03:51 AM also' date=' some china guys have 2 wives. 1 in china, 1 in china/is that legal? [/quote'] i shouldn't be laughing... but i am. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
39degN Posted March 13, 2004 at 04:02 AM Report Share Posted March 13, 2004 at 04:02 AM also' date=' some china guys have 2 wives. 1 in china, 1 in china/is that legal? [/quote'] i shouldn't be laughing... but i am. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lu Posted March 15, 2004 at 07:39 PM Report Share Posted March 15, 2004 at 07:39 PM Why can't it be both way? By 2020, there will be 30-40 million Chinese guys without spouses. They should look for more sources and don't confine their targets to only Chinese girls. I think most Western girls will think Chinese men too old-fashioned, and the Chinese men will problably think Western girls are too independent. Western men turn to Asian girls for a reason... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geek_frappa Posted March 15, 2004 at 07:57 PM Report Share Posted March 15, 2004 at 07:57 PM Why can't it be both way? By 2020' date=' there will be 30-40 million Chinese guys without spouses. They should look for more sources and don't confine their targets to only Chinese girls.[/quote''] I think most Western girls will think Chinese men too old-fashioned, and the Chinese men will problably think Western girls are too independent. Western men turn to Asian girls for a reason... 'asian girls' <---- no two asian girls are alike; it is a pretty big continent. as far as chinese girls? hong kong girls and tibetan girls share few values. shanghai girls have a completely different outlook on life than hebei girls. i'm not really an expert for dating, though. i have only had one girlfriend ever. and she has been tolerating me for about four years... a woman SHOULD be independent. life is so much better when she stops you from making bad decisions about things like money or clothes... ... maybe i should quit talking while i am ahead ... sometimes, western men turn to asian girls for the WRONG reasons... the stereotypes they see in movies or read in certain types of literature, for example. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian_Lee Posted March 15, 2004 at 08:33 PM Author Report Share Posted March 15, 2004 at 08:33 PM Actually I have very good impression about American girls (not necessarily White, ABC, ABJ, ABV,......etc) I know a HK guy goes to Medical School whose ABJ wife works all the five years as waitress to support him financially. I doubt if any Chinese girl (HK, Taiwan or Mainland) is willing to make such sacrifice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Jasmine Posted March 15, 2004 at 10:26 PM Report Share Posted March 15, 2004 at 10:26 PM well i never dated yet so dont' have any experience Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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